Marriage by origin, history and practice is a covenant before God by a man and a woman. We can’t just redefine something because it makes us feel better. I think the answer might be to separate this issue. Churches are where marriages belong and they are best suited to answer these spiritual questions. If the government needs some sort of record let ALL couples, straight or otherwise file civil contracts that can be adjudicated later. The government needs to get out of the “marriage” business altogether.